Embracing ADD
| December 1, 2007 | Posted by Brenda under ADD |
I wrote a post on ADD Moms tonight about imperfection. It was prompted by a teleclass I attended earlier this week at ADD Classes taught by Sari Solden. The class was meant for women with Attention Deficit Disorder, and was about embracing our imperfections.
Sari said that many women with AD/HD are perfectionists, setting impossible standards for ourselves and then beating ourselves up when we fail to meet them. Of course, our ADD further complicates the situation, and makes it even less likely that our standards will be met.
I wonder – do we do the same thing to our ADD children? How perfect do we expect them to be? Do you secretly long for one of those bumper stickers that tells the world about your honor student? Do you wish your son or daughter was the most popular kid in school, or the coolest?
You know, kids with ADD judge themselves pretty harshly. All the ADD adults today with perfectionist tendencies and too high standards for themselves were once kids with the same tendencies and standards.
It’s up to us as parents to let our kids know that they are perfectly OK being less than perfect. It’s also up to us to walk our talk.
Are any of us perfect? Of course not. It’s our differences that make us unique. And whose standards are we using when we measure perfection anyway? If we all have different ideas about what makes the perfect mate, or the perfect meal, who’s to say which one is right?
Attention Deficit Disorder is all about differences. Let’s embrace them, and celebrate them, instead of trying to deny them.
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