Yesterday my daughter had to take a sort of aptitude test. She scored high on English class kinds of skills and low on math related skills. No big surprise. Both of my girls have always been amazing writers but not so great at math.
And yet, all my daughter could focus on yesterday was her low score in math. It’s been a while since she’s been in school, and since math isn’t a strength anyway, the score was almost a given. It isn’t as though she’s trying to get a job as an engineer or rocket scientist.
I think like most people with Attention Deficit Disorder, my daughter tends to focus her attention on her weaknesses rather than her strengths.
After all, isn’t that what we as parents of ADD kids do? Spend our time fretting over and trying to overcome their weaknesses? Isn’t that how ADHD is perceived? As a deficit, a disorder, a weakness?
Is it any wonder when our ADD kids talk in terms of what they can’t do, rather than what they can?
That’s a real shame.
You know, everybody who ever got anywhere in life did so because they focused on what they were good at doing.
Michael Phelps (who has ADHD) focused on swimming. Tom Arnold (who has ADHD) focused on comedy and acting. Winston Churchill (ADHD) was a great statesman. Agatha Christie (ADHD) wrote great mysteries, and Anne Bancroft (ADHD) chose acting to capitalize on her strengths.
We can learn a lesson from these people and pass it on to our kids, ADHD or not. Look for your strengths and learn to make the most of them.
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